The Roadmap to Fulfill Your Dreams

Did you know that 2016 is the year of Jubilee? It’s a year blessed with new beginnings, as the Jubilee is a unique time of freedom and celebration. How fitting for those of us in transition.

In January of this year, I felt the childlike excitement of aNew Year and I was filled with enthusiasm and optimism. I purposed and developed my vision board with an accompanying detailed life plan that outlined specific goals to attain over the next twelve months.

I thought…

  1. Complete my book, which in essence is autobiography, interfaced with all that is known in human science, the psychological of performance and trauma learned over the last three decades. Check mark…done.
  2. Embark upon the next transition professionally…check.
  3. Envision the income goal for the year. And so on and so on.

Even though I thought my goals were specific and touched upon what I wanted to accomplish, they were not as laser- focused as I thought.

You might be asking howI knew this.As the months progressed, I felt the zeal of momentum propelling me through the days at a speed of light. My days were filled with learning technology and business strategies for the virtual marketplace, in addition to clinical work in the field. I felt as though I was making strides forward. But when I took notice and did a checks and balance of my goal list, I found that two-thirds of 2016 had passed. And I really was not as far ahead as I would have liked. The reason Distraction.

There is a lot of noise in the world and unless we are crystal clear about what we want, distraction can overwhelm us.

Headed into the last quarter of the year, I remind myself of two success principals that I learned early on in my entrepreneurial journey; (1) the power of crystal-clear goal-setting (The What and Why); and (2) the power of laser-focus. It sounds simplistic, but in fact these skills are vitally essential to fulfilling your dreams. Like any skill they have to be learned through practice.

To create a crystal-clear goal’s list, you can utilize a few tools (if you haven’t created one, use this form to help you out). The important facets of any goal list is to be clear about What you want to accomplish and Why you want to accomplish it. You see you can’t get to where you want to go, unless you know where that destination is. Without a clear roadmap developed with a destination focus, it is easy to get lost on your life’s journey.


The first step, decide exactly what you want.Ask yourself simple questions: Who do you want to be? What do you want to accomplish for yourself, family, and others? What do you want to experience and acquire?Is there a specific place that you want to go or plan for?

One of the primary reasons most people don’t get what they want is because they aren’t clear about what they want. Others recognize what they’d like to have, but when they can’t see how it’s possible they dismiss their desires as foolish and unattainable.

Don’t sabotage yourself this way!  

Decades of research into how the human brain works, has revealed that we now know that for our brains to figure out how to get what we want, we must first decide what we want.Once we lock-in our desires, our mind and the universe can step in to help make our dreams a reality.



There are simple steps that you can take to refine the process to assist you in identifying specific goals. First get clear about what you want to create for the life you want. Now remove all preconceived beliefs that limit your potential. Tell yourself all things are possible. There is no limit to what you can attain and accomplish. Remember that! – Adopt a success mindset.

Second use a life planning technique, by envisioning your life over a specific timeframe. Perhaps over the next year or longer (depending upon how your brain schematics work best – short, long, or a combination of both types of goals). Then take a piece of white blank paper, fold it in half, then in half again. You’ll see that it creates four quadrants. Now label each quadrant as follows:

  1. Family (including self, relationships with others- consider health, knowledge, family, romance, friendships etc.)
  2. Financial Goals (including actual money desires, career/business objectives etc.)
  3. Community (impacting others through socially responsive action)
  4. Legacy (inheritance for loves ones, other people and the world)


In each quadrant jot down at least 3 goals that move the needle towards fulfilling the life you want in each area. Remember consider what you want to do, be, learn, and invest in personally in yourself and in others. What do your finances look like, business, career. How will you get involved in community and what type of long lasting impact do you want to make with your life.


Then use this worksheet to help you releaseThe Power of Goal Setting in these 4 areas: Decide-What-You-Want-Worksheet

When setting our goals, it’s important to include a few that will make us stretch and grow to achieve them. Examples of these types of goals might be learning a new skill or trying something that is uncomfortable and maybe a little frightening, such as public speaking. I’ll be doing a few of these in the last quarter of this year.

It also helps to set a breakthrough goal that would represent a quantum leap. Examples of breakthrough goals include publishing a book, starting a new business, getting traditional media recognition, winning a prestige award or assuming a prestige role of importance to you.

Material goals are important, but the ultimate goal is to become a master at life. In the long run, the greatest benefit we receive from pursuing our dreams is not the outer trappings of fulfilling the dream, but who we become in the process.

I know you know this, but remember outer symbols of success can all be easily lost. Material possessions are fleeting, our houses can be destroyed, businesses go bankrupt, relationships end, cars get old, bodies’ age and fame flees; but who you are, what you have learned, and the new skills you have developed never go away. These are the true prizes of success. Motivational philosopher Jim Rohn advises that “You should set a goal big enough that in the process of achieving it, you become someone worth becoming.”

Once you are clear about what you want, write each item down as a goal and then identify a measurable objective. Measurable means – how much and by when. Be as specific as possible. Because not your boss, your friends, your spouse, your brain, God, and the Universe can figure out what you want unless you tell them specifically what it is. What exactly do you want and when do you want it by?

As soon as you commit to a big dream and really go after it, your subconscious creative mind will align with your divine purpose and you will come up with big ideas to make it happen. You’ll start attracting the people, resources, and opportunities you need into your life to make your dream come true. Big dreams not only inspire you, they compel others to want to play big, too.

You’ll also discover that when your dreams include service to others – that is, accomplishing something that contributes to others – it accelerates the accomplishment of that goal. People want to be part of something that contributes and makes a difference.

To keep your subconscious mind focused on what you want, read your list of goals every day. For an even more powerful approach, close your eyes and focus on each goal and ask yourself, “What is one thing I could do today to move toward the achievement of this goal?” Write down your answers and take those actions through a Daily To-Do-List.

Then remember that old saying, Roman wasn’t built in a day. Take one step at a time. Steady progress in bite-sized chunks puts even the most audacious goals into reach. In Love.